What You Cannot Be With - Runs Your Life

We are all constantly trying to stay within our comfort zone. I see this with my coaching clients, my friends and in myself. An invisible wall that we put up around us based on our perception of how things should be and how people should behave around us. The moment somebody starts behaving outside of our expectations we think “what should I do about it” “I can’t just ignore it” “I need to fix it”. This is our mind telling us to find a way to resolve the discomfort to restore the walls of protection. 

Each time we hit the edges of our comfort walls we feel the need to control and it ends up using an enormous amount of energy. We stay up at night thinking about “how can I make them change their mind?” “what should I do to make sure my position is secure?” “how can I prove my value to them?”. It drives us to worry, worry about what we look like, what everyone else is doing and about everything we say.  Day and night we are plotting and planning how to avoid discomfort. In the end, it runs your life. 

If we are to have any chance in disrupting this we need to ask ourselves one question: 

What is it that I cannot be with? 

That one thing that makes me feel instantly uncomfortable? Rejection, failure, insecurity, loneliness, unfairness, conflict?  

Then we know what to start to push against, pushing at the edges of this wall, without pulling back. Michael singer, writer of The Untethered Soul says spirituality begins when you decide to never stop trying, when you commit to go beyond, whatever it takes. "A spiritual being feels as though they are always against that edge, and they are constantly being pushed through it."

Content Credit - CTI, Coaching Trainng Institute + Michael Singer The Untethered Soul